How Do I Confront My Son About Stealing My Sex Toys?

If you’re in the midst of a parenting crisis, we’ve got you covered.

Levkoff suggests that you give your son a few of his own sex toys to prevent him from stealing yours. This will teach him to respect your privacy, and it’ll also keep him from sterilizing your dildo (which most 16-year-old boys can’t). This may feel weird, but it could help.

1. Explain It

When kids take things that belong to someone else, shaming them might make them feel worse, but it is not likely to stop them. In fact, it may encourage them to act even more recklessly because they know you will get mad at them. Instead, it is best to explain to them what they are doing wrong and why it is a problem.

You can start by saying something like, “I know it feels a little awkward to talk about this, but these are called ‘sex toys.’ People use them during sex to make it feel better.” If you don’t want to get into this topic, you can try redirecting their attention by asking a completely unrelated question. This will also give you some time to process your feelings before you respond.

2. Remind Him

If your son is a frequent thief, it’s time to start putting some boundaries in place. You can do this in a couple of ways. First, set consequences. Let your child know that stealing is not acceptable and that you will be watching what they spend much more closely. This could mean limiting electronics privileges or even cutting them off until they’ve paid you back for what they’ve stolen. Show them that honesty and integrity are more valuable than anything they might steal ever is.

Another way to set boundaries is to buy your child a few sex toys of his own. This won’t completely stop him from tearing your bedroom apart looking for sex toys, but it might help. You could get a gift card to a reputable sex toy shop and let him pick out what he wants or you can just buy some dildos for him and leave them on his bed next to his clean, folded laundry.

Whatever you do, avoid berating or scaring your child. They’re just trying to do what feels right, and lecturing or punishing them will likely only make the situation worse. Keep the focus on connection and remind them that your love for them is why you’re taking their stealing seriously.

3. Give Him a Warning

Once you have explained the matter to your son and reminded him that it’s not cool to steal, it’s time to give him a warning. Tell him that if you catch him stealing again, he’ll be required to return the item(s) and present an apology in person. If that doesn’t work, he’ll have to do some serious soul-searching about what it means to be dishonest and take other people’s belongings. This might seem harsh, but it’s necessary to teach kids that lying and stealing are very serious matters.

It’s also essential to remember that your child is not a bad guy; he just needs some extra attention, support and guidance to help him overcome this difficult stage in his life. It’s not unusual for kids to go through periods when they are prone to taking things that don’t belong to them. This usually reflects some level of insecurity or an impulse-control issue. In the vast majority of cases, children who steal are not kleptomaniacs and they will grow out of this stage if given the right kind of encouragement.

Another thing to keep in mind is that if you don’t hide your sex toys well enough, he’ll probably start to tell his friends about it. That’s a big problem because it will make them feel uncomfortable. That’s why I always recommend storing your sex toys in a locked container that only you can access. This way, smaller kids can’t reach them and your nosey teenager won’t be tempted to sneak into your bedroom snooping for a new dildo.

It’s important to avoid humiliating your child when you’re confronting him about a stealing problem. It’s also essential to avoid using any words or phrases that sound like you are accusing him of being a criminal; they will only confuse and alienate your child. Instead, use a calm, clear voice and a simple explanation of the problem to address it. This will give your child the best chance of understanding the gravity of his actions and the consequences that lie ahead. Ignoring a stealing problem will only lead to bigger problems down the road.

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