How to Ask Your Parents For a Sex Toy?

Sex toys are tools people use to get more pleasure during sex or masturbation. They’re totally normal and can be really fun!

If you want to buy a sex toy, it’s best to be honest with your parents. But if you don’t feel comfortable talking about it, there are other ways to ask.

1. Tell them you need it

There’s an odd expectation that mothers aren’t supposed to think about sex, or want their own toys. But why is that? It’s nothing short of utterly absurd. If your mom wants to buy you a vibrator, that’s her choice.

If she says no, don’t just take it lying down. Instead, have a conversation.

Explain to your mum why you feel the need for a sex toy and explore her reasons. Gently, but firmly. You need to know what’s motivating her – is she worried about you having fun? Or does she think that you’re being sexual in a way that isn’t healthy?

Once you understand what’s driving her, you can approach the topic more confidently. You may find that she is less likely to object if you have a good reason for wanting a sex toy, and she’ll be more willing to trust your judgement and let you decide what’s right for you.

Depending on the reaction you get, you could try to talk about it openly or try to hide it better. If she doesn’t seem interested in hearing why you want a sex toy or seems uncomfortable at the idea of you masturbating, then it might be best to just hide it. If you can, place it in a drawer or cupboard where she is unlikely to look, such as a top dresser drawer.

You could also order one online and have it delivered to a friend or neighbour’s house, if you have no other way of hiding it. Alternatively, you could order it to yourself and receive it at school or work, where your parents can’t see it. Just be sure to check the tracking code every day so that you can make sure the package doesn’t arrive before you.

Of course, this can be risky, as it could lead to you getting caught with a sex toy, but it’s a good option if you don’t feel comfortable telling your mum about it. If you are honest, she may still ask you to put it away when you’re not using it or might snoop through your room again, which is why a hidden storage solution is important, such as a locked box or safe.

2. Let them choose it

If your child wants a sex toy, it is important to let them choose it. They may already be researching them online, or asking their peers, so don’t shut down their interest. Also, if you are a step-parent, be careful not to buy one for your child if you and your partner are separated or divorced, as their birth mother could feel slighted and use it as evidence of neglect. Talk with your partner first.

3. Tell them it’s legal

It’s important that your teen understands that it is completely legal for them to purchase and use a sex toy. They can even buy one online and have it delivered to their house – although it’s always a good idea to call the store first to ensure they allow teens in to shop.

It is also important that they know it’s completely safe to use, so if they decide to buy one they should make sure it comes with some lube. This way they can start slowly and gradually explore the toy as their comfort level increases. They should also keep it somewhere discreet and should let you know if it is damaged, broken or shows signs of wear.

I would still be hesitant to give anyone under the age of 14 a sex toy as I think they just don’t have the sexual experience or maturity to properly use it. However, it’s totally up to you and your parenting partner – and every situation is different. You know your child best so you’ll have to make this decision based on your own feelings and beliefs.

4. Tell them it’s fun

Regardless of how many conversations you’ve had about masturbation and your sexual pleasure, it is ultimately up to your parents whether they allow or disallow sex toys. It also has to be your decision as to what you think is best for your long-term sexual and mental health. If you decide to get one and your parents say no, don’t take it personally. They’re not the only parents who are nervous about their teenage children exploring their bodies in this way.

If you are able to talk openly with your parents about it, you could try explaining that vibrators are fun. Many people find them to be a good source of pleasure, and they’re not just for use with partners. You could also tell them that masturbation with a vibrator is a healthy way to explore your body, and it can help you feel better physically and emotionally.

It might be that your mum doesn’t feel comfortable talking about it, or she might not feel a sex toy is necessary for you. If this is the case, you might need to be a little sneakier. Putting it in a hidden compartment on your bed, for example, might work. Or, you could ask a friend to send it to them so they don’t have to open the package in front of their eyes.

You could also try buying it online and having them shipped to a friend or relative’s house. This way, if they do look in the mail, they won’t know what it is. You could also ask a friend or family member to let you borrow their credit card for the purchase, so they don’t have to be there to see it.

Some kids are so secretive about sex toys that their parents don’t even know they have them. They may only discover they’re being used when they accidentally stumble across them while changing their child’s bedsheets, or when the battery needs replacing more often than usual. Whether or not this is a good idea depends on the parent, their child and their parenting style.