
Whether or not you’re a good fit for his social circle, you can make him want you back by staying busy with your own interests. This will show him that you’re happy and independent.
Don’t play games or try to manipulate him. If he feels like you’re trying to get back at him, he will likely move on.
Maintain your own life and independence – stay busy with your own interests. This will show him you’re a happy, self-sufficient person he’ll want to spend time with.
Sarah Queen
1. Don’t Worry About His Friends
If you have a friend who isn’t exactly thrilled that you’re dating a guy who’s older than her, she’s probably going to throw some sort of wrench in your plans. She may be right to feel this way, but she doesn’t get a vote in how you live your life or who you choose to date.
Especially if your friends are older, they may not have the same interests as you. You can try to connect with them over these shared interests, but you shouldn’t make your friendship with that friend so important that you allow it to dictate your choices about who you spend time with.
He also needs to see that you have your own life. Keep yourself busy with friends, study groups, hobbies, and a social calendar that doesn’t revolve around him. This will show him that you’re happy and independent. He’ll want to spend more time with you when he sees that you’re a genuinely happy person with a lot to offer the world. He’ll respect you for it too.

2. Stop Caring About What Other People Think
You probably have insecurities about yourself, and caring what other people think feeds into those. This can lead to self-depreciating thoughts, and you could end up with a negative self-image. But you can change this! Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are. This will help you to stop worrying about what others think of you.
You can also focus on pursuing your own passions and interests. This will show your former guy that you are not stuck in the past and that you have a life of your own. Plus, it will give you a sense of purpose and self-worth.
If you find yourself constantly putting other people’s needs before your own, it might be time to re-assess your priorities. You only have one life, and if you spend it trying to please everyone else, you will never have the time or energy to please yourself. And remember, when you stop caring about what other people think, they will start to respect you.
- Maintain your own life and independence
- Be your authentic self
- Don’t appear too desperate
- Don’t pursue his friends

3. Be Yourself
When you’re trying to win your ex back, it is important to be yourself. If you try to be something that you think he wants you to be, it will only make things harder. Remember what made him fall for you in the first place, and try to bring those qualities out in yourself.
You should also keep doing the things you love. Staying busy with friends, hobbies, and interests will show him that you have a life outside of the relationship. It will also make it easier for you to connect with him when the time comes.
It is also a good idea to dress in a way that makes you feel confident. You shouldn’t go overboard, but a little bit of cleavage and a cute outfit can make you more attractive to him. Just be sure to avoid looking trashy or desperate, as these are two things that will turn him off. Instead, be classy and confident, and he will want to spend more time with you.

4. Don’t Be Desperate
Desperation often comes from a feeling of being vulnerable or having low self-esteem. It is important to work on these issues before attempting to attract someone new. A desperate person will do anything to get attention and may act in a way that is unfavorable to their partner or family. Examples of this include telling embarrassing stories about a friend or over-pleasing in an effort to make a person happy.
A desperate person will also tend to be clingy and may text a lot or ask where someone is all the time. This type of behavior is not attractive to a man and shows that you are desperate for his attention. It is important to have a life of your own and be independent so that you do not depend on him for happiness.
It is also important to set boundaries with a partner and not compromise your values. For example, if you are dating someone who does not respect your opinions or your body then you should find another partner. If you are unsure about what your boundaries should be then it is a good idea to seek out relationship coaching to help you learn how to communicate your needs effectively.

5. Don’t Make Him Jealous
Men can be jealous, especially when they feel insecure. It is important not to make him jealous, as this can lead to a variety of issues in the relationship. If he starts acting cold toward you and doesn’t want to be near you, it is likely that you have made him jealous.
If you notice that he is acting jealous, try to connect with him in a different way. For example, you could ask him to join you in one of your favorite hobbies or activities. This will show him that you value him, and it will also help to soothe some of his insecurities.
You can also try to distract him by spending time with your friends or pursuing a new hobby. This will show him that you have a life outside of your relationship and that you are not depending on him for attention. Finally, you can also try to name drop in conversation a little bit. This will make him curious about who you are talking to.

8. Don’t Go After His Friends
It’s important not to go after his friends just because you like him. He may have made you feel special by including you in his group, but it’s his friends who are his priority. It’s not your responsibility to entertain his friends or try to impress them with a certain level of sexiness.
Instead, focus on your own social life and let him see you laughing it up with your girlfriends or having a great time running with your best friend. If he sees you living and enjoying your life, he will want to spend time with you, too.
If he doesn’t, then he probably never wanted anything more than a friendship in the first place. He is focusing on his friends because that’s his priority and you just aren’t on his radar at the moment. If this is the case, you need to respect his boundaries and move on. Otherwise, you could be wasting your time trying to win him back when he never had more than friendship in mind.

Michele Bailey
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