What Are the Best Toys to Use During Sex?

Experts recommend choosing a pleasure toy that excites you. Look for toys that are body-safe and offer multiple intensity levels.

For example, the Fun Factory Lady Bi vibrator stimulates both the clit and G-spot, and is perfect for couples play.

Consider also getting a dildo or rabbit to stimulate your anus and/or mouth. And a prostate massager, like Lelo’s remote-controlled Hugo.

Panty vibrators

There’s no shortage of panty vibes out there, and they’re great for clit stimulation during sex. You can find clips that fasten securely to underwear, lay-on vibes that slide right into the panties pocket, and app-controlled vibes that let you turn up the heat from a distance (great for long-distance couples). But which one is best for you? According to ob-gyn Heather Bartos, MD, “Some have convertible parts for external and internal stimulation; some are designed as a small rabbit that fits snugly inside your underwear with curved ears to tickle the clit. Others have a strap that goes over the vulva and holds the toy in place. And some are made to be inserted directly into the clitoris.”

A good panty vibe should be discreet, quiet, and easily cleanable, says G Stone, certified clinical sexologist and founder of Straight But Not Narrow Ladies. It should also be comfortable and easy to use, and preferably made from body-safe materials. “For panty vibrators, I recommend silicone, as it’s smoother on the vulva and easier to wipe down,” she says.

If you’re looking for something that feels like a wand but is small enough to take with you everywhere, try the LELO ENIGMA, which promises orgasms without a build-up and has the ability to sync with music via its companion app. This toy is also waterproof and features a rechargeable battery that lasts for hours, so you can take it to the shower or pool.

Another option is the Fun Factory’s Lady Bi, which combines clitoral and G-spot stimulation for explosive blended orgasms. Its longer arm reaches deep into the vagina, and its smaller arm rests on the clitoris for added pleasure. The toy also has a looped handle that’s easy to grasp during thrusting, and it’s fully waterproof for hands-free play in the bath or shower.

For a dual-stimulation toy that can be used at home or on the go, consider the Lovense Flexer or We-Vibe Jive, both of which have adjustable arms for external and internal stimulation. Both come in a range of colors and are compatible with many different styles of underwear. You can even find versions that clip to the waistband of your pants, or are held in place by magnetic or suction cups.

Cock rings

If you’re looking to take your kinkiest pleasures to the next level, cock rings are a great option. These toys fit around the base of your cock and vibrate when you use them. They’re easy to use and provide a satisfying amount of stimulation for kinkier types. They’re also a good option for those who aren’t interested in using anal toys.

Cock rings can be made from a variety of materials, but it’s important to choose one that feels right and is safe to use. Look for a toy that’s made from non-toxic silicone or plastic and avoid porous materials, such as cyber skin, jelly, PVC, rubber (even skin-safe rubber), UR3, and vinyl. These materials can harbor bacteria and can be difficult to clean.

A good cock ring will have plenty of stretchiness so it fits snugly on your dick. You can test the stretchiness of a toy by buying it in person at a sex shop or watching videos online where someone is stretching the product. You can also buy a kit that includes multiple rings of different sizes to find the perfect fit for you.

While dildos are the most common penetrative toy, some people prefer a cock ring or other alternative. The Halo by Bellesa, for example, is a popular choice because it restricts blood flow to the penis to create harder and longer-lasting erections. It can be used solo or with a partner and is a good choice for those who want to explore anal play.

For those who aren’t quite ready to delve into anal play, there is the Lovehoney Inside Job, a toy that fits over your cock and sends vibrations straight to the perineum. This toy can be flipped over to use as a clitoral stimulator and is easy for beginners to learn how to use.

Another great option is the Lovense sex toy that plugs into your butt and sends a powerful motor through its large top to create intense clitoral and pelvic sensations. This toy is a little pricey, but it’s a great way to get into the pleasure zone if you’re willing to pay the extra money.

Clitoral suction vibrators

Designed to stimulate the internal nub of your clitoris, these toys can induce orgasms that are off the charts. According to a sexual wellness expert at Satisfyer, clitoral suction vibrators “coax your clitoris into sensation that is unlike any you’ve experienced before, triggering wave-like sensations of orgasm.”

Generally, a clitoral suction vibrator has a body-safe silicone or medical-grade material shell with a soft but firm body. Some are even waterproof, making them ideal for shower play or a relaxing soak in the tub. They’re also typically quiet, a feature that could be especially desirable if you live with roommates or want to use them during sensual massages.

There are many different types of clitoral suction vibrators, ranging from small bullet vibes to rabbit-style vibes and dildos for pegging. When selecting one, make sure it’s made with either body-safe or medical-grade silicone as these materials are nonporous and less likely to harbor bacteria and viruses. Also look for toys that are reusable and easy to clean, and consider the amount of power they consume if you’re going to be using them regularly.

If you’re looking for a toy with multiple functions, the LELO ENIGMA is a great option that combines clitoral and G-spot stimulation into one powerful device. The toy features a curved neck that targets the clit and a smaller arm that hits your G spot, making it ideal for couples who enjoy cross-training their pleasure zones. This toy also has a sexy, silky-soft texture and offers eight vibration patterns, making it a fun and versatile choice.

For a more budget-friendly clitoral suction vibe, try the Lelo Sona Cruise 2, which offers similar sonic and suction technologies to the Dame’s Fin but comes with 12 power levels for a more custom experience. It’s also compact and travel-friendly, meaning you can take it with you on your next getaway.

To get the most out of your clitoral suction vibrator, be sure to pair it with plenty of lube and arousal gel. Then, with your partner’s consent and permission, place the toy over their clitoris, or gently stroke it against their clitoral hood and other erogenous areas. For best results, you’ll want to start with foreplay first and gradually increase the intensity of your touch until your clitoral sensations reach their peak.

Finger vibes

Getting intimate with your partner is a great way to boost sexual pleasure, and sex toys are a fun, discreet option. But with thousands of options available, choosing the right one for you can be daunting. Whether you’re looking for a bullet vibrator, rabbit toy, or g-spot-targeting dildo, there’s something out there for everyone.

When it comes to choosing a vibe, first thing’s first: think about what turns you on. If you’re a sucker for vibration and intense sensations, a clitoral stimulator is a good choice. You can also try a rabbit toy, which is ideal for both clitoral and internal stimulation, or even penetration. For a more natural feeling, consider using a silky-smooth silicone toy.

Then, decide if you’d prefer a water-resistant toy or a rechargeable battery. The latter option is a better choice for your environment and the planet, while the former may be more convenient for people who live in apartments. Finally, think about the size of your hand and whether you’d like a discreet toy. There are many different sizes and textures of vibes to choose from, so make sure you pick one that’s a comfortable fit.

While most finger vibes prioritize external stimulation, there are a few that focus on the G-spot. The Fifty Shades of Grey Sensation Finger Vibrator, for example, has a generous curve and massages the entire vulva with its five speeds and 15 patterns. Another top pick is the Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Finger Vibrator, which has a smooth silicone texture and can be used on the clits, labia, or vulva nipples.

If you want to spice things up, a strap-on is an excellent couples toy. Frost recommends harnesses from SpareParts, which are “incredibly easy to use with velcro instead of those shifting buckles that drive you crazy.” She also loves a dildo from New York Toy Collective, which she says feels like an actual penis.

When it comes to sex toys, the devil is in the details, so it’s important to read reviews and look at photos before making a purchase. If there are any fatal flaws, such as an uncomfortable shape or unreliable wiring, they’ll often become apparent in user reviews. It’s also important to remember that toys are meant to be enjoyed with consent, so be sure to talk to your partner about incorporating them into your bedroom play.